Feeling Important in Relationships
Part Two of Comfort Psychology
Part Two of Comfort Psychology
Comfort depends on relationships. Relationships are defined as how two or more concepts, objects, or people are connected or the state of being connected. Starting with the animal kingdom, when species recognize the presence of a different species, the thought process is probably not deep as to whether another animal is a predator or only different. There exists only comfort or discomfort. Survival.
Whether your aim is to make more friends, gain a larger social media following, or sell more blenders, go with us through this quick journey. We will consider several comfort aspects of your contact list, including what you can do with and about them.
Societal Relationship Comfort
Age — We tend to divide ourselves into demographics.
Interests — people always group themselves around similar interests. There are book clubs and gardening clubs. The groups are comfortable with each other.
Religious Denominations have events that are church-driven. They are specific to particular churches and particular calendar days.
Race — in some cases a particular race or region of origin better enjoy being with their type. Foods and customs may differ from one group to the next. People are always more comfortable with things they grew up with.
Political — increasingly we have identified with one political party or another. As political opinions have become farther apart, the gap between the parties has widened and often the animosity increased. One party is ok by itself, but two together will find disagreement.
Interpersonal Relationships
In humans, we have what we call “Best Friends.” We have “good friends.” We have people we work with and other people we respect. We have our mentors, the people we look up to. They are all different groups carrying different comfort levels.
We start as children being molded by our parents. We are taught the folkways and mores of their society to continue it. Maybe parents act not intentionally, but habitually.
Then we learn a broader horizon in school and eventually in the workplace.
The crowd we run with- As we develop and grow within our families we also develop and grow within our Circle of Friends. over time, our Circle of Friends became an increasingly important factor, more so than our parents. Our feeling of importance within that circle becomes more important.
The youth. The youth is always ready to be molded. Some are more fortunate than others in their family situations. Some youth do not have the benefit of as much support from their family as others do.
Schools and churches sometimes try to augment the work of the family, but, of course, it’s not quite the same.
Gangs can take the place of families sometimes, in situations where the presence of the family is less influence in a child’s life. The need to please and be comfortable in a gang can be quite destructive.
The bullies are like gangs of one and the fact that they can pray on weaker children gives the bullies the important feeling they require.
Family Relationships
Families are always important in the life of a child. Many families are tight-knit, closely supportive groups that raise great children. They all like the same things and I all live by roughly the same code of conduct.
Some families can end up with splinters and factions that might fight with each other. Families do, however. make up the essential building block of civilization. The relationship of family members is the glue that holds society together.
Families are usually comfortable with each other. Different groups of people are often extensions of the central family with similar beliefs and conduct.
Sometimes children are driven to be pleasing to their parents. Some are not. Families have different chemistries.
Last thoughts…
The important thing is to realize that all people are connected by differing numbers of degrees, but connected nonetheless. Those individual connections are perceived by those connected as comfortable or uncomfortable.
Both can be used as a tool to influence behavior, popularity, sales, and marketing.
Next in this series, we will examine comfort as it exists with mental health.
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