Feeling Important in Mental Health
Part Three of Comfort Psychology
Part Three of Comfort Psychology
Children
Children, as a rule, are very labor-intensive. Children are high touch, high maintenance items.
Children can suffer if they are not exposed to other humans for imprinting as soon, and as often as possible.
Modeling — Children are involved with imprinting from their birth as they model other humans they say. This, of course, is one of the most important and formative times of a child’s life.
Bullying — As children grow and get older they reach a point where they spend less time with their parents and family and more time with school friends. Their modeling activities diminish but never go away completely.
Time again at this point to model their friends as they did their family, but, in this case, they may mimic things that are wrong, instead of things that will help them survive and prosper.
Teens — As children continue to grow older, their modeling system of learning does not become less important to them. They continue to model as a normal part of growing. This is partly the reason that having good role models is important.
Gangs — In the teen years, while modeling is still an important part of their education, they are sometimes exposed to more formal gangs of other children.
Sometimes these gangs of children take on a less civilized activity since there is strength and much less discipline in numbers. As role models, they are very strong. Also, as role models, they often are not very good.
Loneliness
As children continue to advance in their chronological age, they may run with a circle of friends that is not destructive, a circle of friends (gang) there is more destructive, or no group of friends at all. At this point, the human, being a social creature either has friends or occasionally wishes he or she had friends.
Some people find value in having fewer friends. Much creative work is performed by people with fewer friends. Sometimes these people call themselves loners or introverts. Often cerebral activities are better done in less noisy situations.
Addictions
Being social creatures, humans either have sufficient friends and mentors to be okay, or they do not. Sometimes humans that are less social or have fewer friends, or if they are more involved with solitary activities enjoy habits that can eventually become addictive.
Almost any substance can be addictive to the right person. Addictions involve a person’s using a substance frequently and enjoying its use. A point comes during its use, the user can reach a “sweet spot of enjoyment.”
That “sweet spot” can take the place of friendships and constructive things. In the beginning, it can be very satisfying before it has the opportunity to become destructive. Sometimes habits with chemical components can produce physical changes to the human body to the point where stopping would cause a withdrawal problem.
Sometimes items that do not involve a chemical component can create just as strong an addiction and almost as nice a sweet spot as their counterparts. Those types of addictions are better defined as habits than addictions.
All addictions, except possibly some with a chemical component, can be walked away from with willpower. They depend on the degree of enjoyment of the human involved. Certain types of people seem more easily involved in habituation or even addiction than other types of people.
Much of the ability to be a productive member of society and much of the tendency away from addiction or habituation may be a product of all ongoing friendships end socialization. More study is needed.
Suicides
All social and anti-social activities fall on a spectrum of behavior that is learned. As human beings, we depend on an ongoing process of mentoring and learning.
At the lowest point of anti-social behavior Is the decision to stop participating altogether. Sometimes the support is so little that the choice is to withdraw or possibly even destroy oneself.
Last word
People, as they grow from birth, tend to fall, by default, into conditions and company that makes them feel comfortable. People need that.
People will like you if you make them comfortable. People will buy from you what makes them comfortable or, at least, more comfortable.
Next in this series, we will examine comfort as it exists with communication.
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